Rough Crowd December: Building A Scene

People always ask – all this is great, but how do you build a scene with it?

Well… let’s talk about that.

There’s no one way to build a scene, so we’re going to have a roundtable (well, while sitting on the floor – you know what I mean). We’ll start with some ideas and frameworks, and open it up from there: how do you build a scene? How do you – as a Top or a bottom – like a scene to go? What do you love it when they do? What do you just hate it when they do? What derails a scene for you and how have you learned to get back on track in the middle?

Bring your ideas, your favorites, your stumpers… your questions and your experiences, and we’ll all learn a thing or two from each other about building a scene and exchanging the love. Where by “love” we mean “beating the hell out of each other.”

Age, race, gender identification, partnership status, poly, D/s, height, eye color… all do not matter here. If you think this sounds interesting, then yes, it isfor you.

This session of Rough Crowd will be talk and participation. While couples and groupings are always encouraged to come together (hey, isn’t that always nice?), it’s not a requirement to have a partner to come to Rough Crowd.

Please RSVP using the RSVP instructions, below.

Sunday, December 9

1:00 pm – 4:00 pm

RSVP for location and directions

Event page is up; do sign up, but you still have to RSVP (see below).

Rough Crowd is:

  • 18 & up
  • Cheap (ten bucks!)
  • Open to all levels of skill and experience


Please note that we have an RSVP policy, with a 24-hour deadline. That means you must have your RSVP in by Saturday noon the day before. It’s pretty easy: go here to follow the RSVP Instructions.

How Rough Crowd Works:

If you’ve never been to a Rough Crowd before (or if you just have questions), check out our “Rough Crowd details: What, Where, When, How”. It’s like a FAQ, but smaller.

A Favor:

Rough Crowd is successful because you guys make it successful. When I post these things, they get as far as the people I know on my own feed, and the few groups I post them in. But the more people this reaches, the better.

You can help on FetLife:

You can help get the word out by posting (or re-posting) about Rough Crowd, and linking to this discussion or the event page above, in any groups you’re a part of, or even in your own status. That helps spread the word beyond my own personal network, and we can reach a larger and more diverse crowd. The more the merrier, and new faces are always welcome and encouraged.

You can help on Twitter:

You can also help by following me on Twitter ( for for updates (and other random pervy things). Help by retweeting info about Rough Crowd; this helps spread the word even further. Thank you!

You can help wherever you and your kinky brethren and… sistren?… gather:

Feel free to spread the word in whatever way you have available to you.

Post away, people! TIA.

Hope to see a bunch of you at Rough Crowd,